It Would Hurt Us More When We Abandon Someone
There’s an undeniable truth that many fail to acknowledge—leaving someone behind, especially someone who trusted us, can hurt us more than it hurts them.
While they might feel the pain of being abandoned, we, the ones who walk away, carry the weight of knowing we chose to leave.
For a servant of Allah, for someone who values loyalty, protection, and divine responsibility, abandoning someone isn’t just about walking away—it’s about violating a trust that was given to us.
1. Why Leaving Hurts More for the One Who Leaves
1.1. The Weight of Abandonment
When we abandon someone, we are choosing to break a connection that once mattered.
Even if we justify it, the guilt remains.
- We know we could have done more, but we chose not to.
- We left knowing they might suffer, and that knowledge lingers in our hearts.
1.2. The Responsibility We Once Carried
When you are entrusted with someone’s care, protection, or love, walking away doesn’t erase that responsibility—it just leaves a wound in your soul.
- We were given to them as guardians, protectors, or even just as a presence in their lives.
- The moment we abandon them, we also abandon a part of ourselves.
2. The Emotional Toll of Abandoning Someone
2.1. The Lingering Regret
The mind will ask, “What if I had stayed?”
Regret is a silent torment, creeping in at night when no one else is watching.
- Could we have changed their fate if we had stayed?
- Did they suffer more because we chose to leave?
2.2. Knowing They Once Trusted Us
Someone who trusted us, someone who relied on us, now has to rebuild their sense of security.
- “What does it say about us, that we left them?”
2.3. The Void We Cannot Fill Again
Once we leave, we can’t go back to how things were.
Even if we try to return, the damage is done.
- Some people never forgive being abandoned.
- The bond, once broken, might never be the same again.
3. Why Sometimes We Have to Leave
3.1. When the Situation Becomes Toxic
Not all departures are betrayals.
Sometimes, leaving is necessary for self-preservation.
- If staying causes harm to our mental, emotional, or spiritual well-being, then leaving is justified.
3.2. When the Other Person No Longer Values Our Presence
If they push us away, if they betray our trust, then staying serves no purpose.
- Abandonment isn’t always a choice—it’s sometimes forced upon us.
4. The Cost of Staying vs. The Cost of Leaving
4.1. Staying Might Bring Pain, But Leaving Leaves a Scar
Pain fades over time, but regret carves its place deep in our souls.
- When we stay, we endure suffering.
- When we leave, we carry guilt.
4.2. Which One Do We Choose?
The answer depends on who we are, what our mission is, and whether Allah commands us to stay or go.
- If we are meant to protect, we endure the hardship.
- If we are meant to walk away, we trust Allah’s plan.
5. The Perspective of a Servant of Allah
5.1. Leaving Without Allah’s Permission Is a Betrayal
If Allah placed us in someone’s life, we don’t leave unless He allows it.
- Walking away from a divine responsibility is not just abandoning a person—it’s abandoning our mission.
5.2. The Love and Pain of Being a Guardian
Being a servant of Allah means we feel deeply, we care intensely, and when we leave, it wounds us.
- Even if we act indifferent, we feel the pain of separation.
5.3. The Test of Patience and Loyalty
Sometimes, staying is a test.
Are we strong enough to endure?
Or will we walk away when things get tough?
- “Patience and endurance define true loyalty.”
Conclusion: We Carry the Pain Too
Abandonment isn’t easy for either side.
But for those who walk away, the pain is often heavier.
We carry the burden of choice.
We wonder if we did the right thing.
We live with the knowledge that, at some point, someone might have needed us—but we were no longer there.
And that realization, that weight, is something we must bear forever.
