You Didn’t Want to Be My Decision Maker? (Avoidance)
When you avoid making decisions for or about me, it says more than silence ever could.
Your avoidance isn’t just hesitation—it’s a subtle way of revealing your stance, even if you don’t realise it.
And yet, I can’t help but wonder about the questions left unanswered.
1. Do You Need Me?
Do you need me in your life?
It’s a simple question, but one that’s hard for many to admit.
I’m here, willing to stand beside you, but your avoidance makes me question if you want that at all.
- I’m not asking for control. I’m asking if my presence matters to you.
- I don’t need declarations. I just need clarity—a sign that you value me being here.
2. Do You Want Me Close to You?
There’s a difference between wanting someone nearby and needing them close.
Do you want me in your life as a source of support, or as a distant acquaintance whose presence is optional?
- I’m not here to harm or burden you.
- I’m here because I value the connection we have.
Your actions—or avoidance—will decide how close I can stay.
3. Are You Afraid to Say You Need Me?
Why is it so hard for people to admit they need someone?
Needing someone doesn’t make you weak—it makes you human.
I see that fear in your avoidance, in the way you dodge the simplest truths about us.
- I’m not your enemy. I don’t want to destroy or diminish you.
- I’m not like anyone else. I value loyalty, relationships, and kindness.
You don’t need to be scared.
I’ve outgrown the games I used to play, even if I still find excitement in harmless fun.
4. Why Avoid Me If I’m Not a Threat?
I understand hesitation, but let me make one thing clear:
I’m not dangerous to those who treat me with kindness.
If you’re avoiding me because of fear, then perhaps you misunderstand me completely.
- To my enemies, I am relentless. But to those I care about, I’m a source of protection, not destruction.
- I value the bond we share. It’s fun, meaningful, and worth preserving.
Your avoidance might protect you from something, but it could also push away something—or someone—who genuinely values you.
5. What I Value in This Relationship
1. Honesty: I don’t want you to pretend or hide.
If you need me, say it. If you don’t, let me know.
Avoidance only prolongs uncertainty.
2. Connection: The relationship we have is unique.
I value it because it feels real, unlike the fleeting connections I’ve known before.
3. Trust: You can trust that I’m not here to harm you.
I’ve left behind the recklessness of my past to focus on what truly matters—relationships built on respect and care.
6. Why You Shouldn’t Fear Me
I know my intensity might be intimidating, but let me reassure you: I’m not a threat to those who matter to me.
The energy I used to direct toward destruction is now reserved for protecting what I value.
- I’m not here to play with your heart.
I respect and cherish the bond we share. - I’m not your enemy. I’m someone who values kindness and loyalty.
7. What Your Avoidance Tells Me
Your avoidance doesn’t just speak—it shouts.
It reveals your hesitations, fears, and perhaps even your unwillingness to confront your own feelings.
But avoiding me won’t erase the connection we share.
- If you need me, don’t be afraid to say it.
- If you don’t, then let me go without leaving room for doubt.
Conclusion: The Choice Is Yours
I’ve made my stance clear: I value our relationship, and I’m here if you need me.
But I can’t force you to choose.
Avoidance only prolongs the inevitable decision you’ll need to make.
- Do you need me to stay? Say so, and I’ll be here.
- Do you want me to leave? Then don’t fear saying goodbye.
In the end, I’m not dangerous to you unless you choose to make me one.
I’m here, waiting for you to decide—and I hope your choice is made without fear.
